Men and Women are different. Should be obvious to anyone who has a pulse over the age of 13 but some people take it too far in both directions. On one hand I completely agree with some basic rules on how to treat a lady, such as being polite, holding doors, killing spiders, and opening jars when needed but that was just how I was raised. Women should get respect, but in the world respect is earned and unfortunately not all women deserve respect, just look at the recent Casey Anthony trial that had America all up in that woman's business she doesn't deserve any respect guilty or not for the way she handled her situation. Women have kind of always gotten the shitty end of the stick since the dawn of time eventhough without them we couldn't continue the species. Religion has always had an agenda to keep the females down and to make them submissive, basically baby factories who would cater to the man of the house with or without a bun in the oven. I don't like extremes to one way or another, I like to see things in a gray area where there is always middle ground.
Lets start by taking a look at one extreme of the sexism spectrum: The misogynistic. Now for some reason be it the natural perceived order of male dominance, or the way some men were raised there are men out there who hate women. This hatred can have varying degrees and extremes of its own. Men who hate women in my personal experience tend to have wives. This weird contradiction isn't just about the male vs. female dynamic it seems to be more about a need to have power and control. It is about seeing the woman as an "enemy" for lack of a better term and controlling that enemy and ruling their life, subjugation through marriage I suppose. Since I'm not professionally trained to identify the reasons for this type of behavior I can only speculate that it is about having total control over something in such a chaotic world. The men who hate women and go out of their way to make sure that things are harder on women most likely had shitty experiences with women at an early age or were taught that women were inferior to men which is your basic form of sexism. Men are simply better than women because they are men. True? False? Neither? Lets explore.
Men have over the years objectified women, made women property, and used and abused them. So it can be very easy for people to get behind women and give them the "poor you" sympathetic treatment. This is a problem because it only makes people take sides on the issue. Yes in history women have been demonized and had many hardships put upon them due to their gender. However it is the 21st century now and all the problems of the past should have gone away but they just changed forms because of societal beliefs and generalized thoughts. People generalize too much on everything it seems. When women in general had enough of their situation they fought to change it didn't they? They wanted suffrage, and they got it. They wanted more competitive wages and some say they got it others say they didn't, and there is just so much data to sift through on whether women really got equal pay that I can't say one way or the other but my guess is that men still earn more than women. The point is that to paint the woman as a victim all the time is also sexist. In today's modern society I think that in America we have slowly allowed a culture of women to develop and like most things this has positive and negative effects. I can in all honesty say that somewhere between 1960 and 2010 women realized that they have the pussy and so therefore they have the power and now that they are aware of this some women use it to their advantage, women have learned to cherish their inner "Bitch" and use it as a tool to accomplish their goals. This didn't happen overnight but in 2011 a woman has every right to be as powerful, successful, rich, and just as lecherous as a man, think of Samantha from Sex in the City, for those of you who don't know she's the sluttier one of the group. Wait I should say promiscuous one, not sluttier one because that would be a sexist statement right? Unfortunately the term slut only applies to women even though men are capable of being just as slutty. Lets talk about sex. For a man sexual conquest is just that a conquest right? If a woman has the same idea she's a slut or a tramp or whatever the word you like to use is, there is enough out there to describe that kind of behavior yet some women use sex to gain results that work to their favor right? Lets turn the table for a minute, as a guy I am expected to enjoy random sex with as many partners as I can possibly find right? Well that is a sexist view, as I am more into long term 1 on 1 relationships with someone I can respect and converse with. Now I am not the typical male but to assume I am is sexist isn't it? The gender war is won by women in this area because they have something that most men really, really, really, want. Pussy equals power. Oh wait that is another sexist statement isn't it? Any generalized view of how someone is supposed to act or what kind of treatment they are supposed to garner because of their gender is sexism.
Sexism isn't just set aside for women, or for that matter bad treatment of women. Sexism can be directed towards men and women, though I feel that it is directed more towards women is the consensus. I feel that letting a woman get away with anything just because she is a woman is sexist. Her ideas are not any less dangerous or meaningful just because she is a woman, there were female Nazis remember? Giving people a free pass because of their gender male or female is sexism. "Hey John you're a strong man, lift this heavy box for me." as an example at my place of work we are all required to be able to lift at least 50 lbs. of weight at given times, having me lift it and saying the phrase above is sexism. Now I don't take offense to this but If I were to say "Hey Margaret come wash these dishes for me you look like a capable woman." that could possibly be offensive to Margaret and I would be considered sexist right?
The other extreme of sexism is that women should be put onto a pedestal. There are those out there who feel that as a group women need to be looked after, taken care of , and granted as much help as they need. That is also sexist even though it may be perceived as helpful or charitable or compassionate, assuming that each individual woman needs or even wants your help to further their own lives is sexism. I find that today women are just as capable of obtaining their goals as most men. Let's be honest though, we are all aware there are obstacles to everything and there are antiquated ideas of keeping women down that they face but that is no different than being black, or Jewish, or Islamic, or whatever hang-up you want to pin on someone to explain or in some cases make excuse as to why they didn't get a fair chance at whatever they are attempting to gain. People who use these kind of limitations to explain their situation aren't fighters and will probably live a life of settling anyways. So to say "I didn't get that job because I'm a woman." is sexist, blaming your own gender for lack of accomplishments is just as sexist as not getting a job because the person in charge of hiring was a sexist pig, you are just perpetuating sexism by participating in it. Perhaps equality isn't what women should have fought for all those years. Maybe a sense of understanding of how each of us works is what we all should strive for, Men and Women are different. Equal? No. Men don't have the same problems women face physically and from what I've heard there is no equivalent pain to match child birth and as far as genetics, men are more suitable for certain physical activities due to our genetic make up. That's why men hunted and gathered and women stayed behind to take care of things back home. When we moved away from the forests into the cities the line between gender roles all but disappeared over time. I think that as people we need to stop generalizing everything, and sexism is really that a generalization based on prejudice and it happens to men and women although reactions and frequency are not equal. We are all created equal (one egg, one sperm) but once we start breathing all equalities end there, life sorts out the rest. Now go make me a sandwich the game is on.
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